Business Couples: The Good, The Bad and The Ugly
In today’s post, we’re going to uncover what you need to know that most business couples don’t share.
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Couple-Preneurs Grow Together
What’s cool about business couples who travel the world together is that you get to spend a ton of time together! That’s a HUGE perk (especially if you enjoy each other!)
Growing together means that when you communicate, you’re less likely to piss each other off and more likely to flow with the conversation. This gives you both the space to speak, be heard, and respond.
Communication is a solid part of the foundation required to grow together. The two types of communication, verbal and non-verbal, both play an important role in your relationship together.
Be sure that what you say is matching up with what you’re doing (because if they contradict, then the meaning can be confused, potentially causing a rift.)
Now, you may be thinking, “Ugh, Brian! We cannot spend every waking moment together!”
I totally get it… Sometimes you gotta go do YOU in order to grow together. There’s nothing wrong with that!
But be advised… Doing the couple-preneur thing is going to allow you both to spend unlimited time together (as of this writing, both Erin and I have spent the last 570 days together… And we’re loving it!)
Business couples all over the globe who are full-time together often cross boundaries in their lives, which can potentially lead to burnout.
These boundaries are things like:
- Taking your laptop or phone to bed & working
- Turning your dining room into an office
- Using the kitchen as your break room
- The living room is now your mastermind space
- Wherever you stay turns into your office
The good thing about traveling full-time is that you’re constantly changing spaces. But if you’re building your business from home, you never feel like you’re leaving work because you do work in all of your spaces.
I know this because THAT is what my house turned into before I sold it in 2017 and started traveling full-time with Erin.
All those spaces mentioned above ended up serving some sort of business purpose.
Q: So how do you set boundaries in your space so that you can “leave” work when you’re done for the day?
A: By setting boundaries about WHERE you are going to perform your work activities!
One thing we like doing is changing locations so that we can go experience nature, film our videos for YouTube out in the wild, or even hit up a coffee shop to write a blog post.
I know we’re not perfect with setting boundaries, because some of the Airbnb’s we stay in may not be set up perfectly to have an “office” space so that all the other spaces can function as they are intended. But we like to separate our time as much as possible.
Now the bad & ugly side for business couples is that you’re so invested in your business that often, you start working on things like writing blog posts, creating your eCourses, engaging in your community, or filming & editing your videos, then you look up and it’s time to go to bed.
That means you were so immersed in your work that you didn’t stop.
Is that bad?
Yes & no…
Yes, it’s bad because you need time for yourself, your health, your relationship together…
No, because you know that your idea & your business is going to help multitudes of people in their lives (this is so unselfish of you! Good job!)
And that’s one of the things we struggle with… The time invested to help others versus taking care of ourselves and our relationship.
We talk about this all the time, and some days we look at each other and say, “Today we’re taking off and we’re going to focus on loving each other, going on a hike, or just unwinding the mind…”
It’s important to build up & take care of yourself.
If you are staying physically active, eating a wholesome diet, infusing your mind with greatness, and nurturing your relationship together, then you’ll be able to help those around you.
Couple-Preneurs Get More Done
Before Erin and I met, I was going through a divorce and was questioning what my purpose in life was. There was this drive within me sounding loud, showing me that by creating an online business that is focused on how to use the online world to sell products and services, that I’d be able to help other people who were having similar problems in their lives.
I was running on one cylinder, and it felt like there wasn’t much time in the day. Between working 24 or 48-hour shifts at the fire station, commuting an hour in each direction, and building a biz online by myself, it was as if I had one battery that was constantly being drained.
Once Erin and I met, we found that the commonalities in the directions we were going with our businesses would be a good fit to create ONE business together.
This immediately supercharged our ability to get more done because there were two of us working towards a common goal together!
The power business couples have together is greater than that of someone on a solo mission. Not to say creating a business online by yourself is no bueno… because it’s great!
The point here is that when you have one battery, you’re limited by the amount of power it produces. As soon as you add a second battery that’s connected in the right configuration, the power is doubled… Every time you add on another battery (by growing your team), the power increases proportionately.
As a couple-preneur, you’re going to be able to focus your power & strengths on the things you’re good at. Continue taking care of yourself, learning and evolving so the charge you have in your battery can be replenished as it’s being used.
Create Your Reality
The moment that I had the realization: “WHAT you intentionally (or unintentionally) DO each day creates your reality.”
What does that mean?
Using me as an example, I made the decision to become a firefighter. By doing that, it required a commitment to show up once every three days for 24 hours straight (48 hours straight when I had to work overtime to afford to live in Austin, Texas).
This decision had very specific actions I had to take. Those actions were dictated by my “boss” – the Fire Department. They told me when I had to arrive, when I could leave, how much I could earn, which station I was to report, what duties I must complete each day, and what continuing education I must take to keep up with the crazy amounts of required certifications.
All of this created my reality (and what YOU are doing each day is creating YOUR reality…)
November 2015 is when I realized that I had the choice of what I could be doing.
This “Ah-ha” moment was vivid!
I saw that there were other people online who were creating businesses, quitting their jobs once they reached their minimum viable income level, then taking a flight to experience the world.
I already had a MacBook and a smartphone, so there was no barrier to owning the technology.
The barrier… I didn’t know how to build a business online that would allow me to create the reality I wanted (traveling full-time, not having to clock-in, being my own boss, and earning an independent income).
I got to work… I learned how to create a website, figured out what niche of the business I wanted to build, and started creating content around it so that my products & services could be found by people looking for them.
That’s when Erin and I met… Being on the same path, we decided to lock arms and do it together. Read our full story here »
There’s the good, the bad and the ugly when it comes to being couples in business together. Finding your groove, being open to communication, and supporting each other where needed will help you turn any bad or ugly side of your life, into one that can be good. Keep on growing together as loves and as couple-preneurs. You’ll be surprised at how simple it can be to create a business online when following the BEAP Road Map. Focus on being valuable into those needing what it is you have, and you’ll do great!
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