We have been taught that taking care of ourselves is selfish, over indulgent, and even greedy… BUT what if that is the furthest thing from the truth? What if taking care of yourself first was the thing that attracts love, freedom, and abundance into your life?

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Why you may not be taking care of yourself the way you want to be…

First of all, this isn’t something to get down on yourself about, but something to take note of how often you do this… It’s our natural instinct to take care of others & how they feel before we take care of ourselves. In many cases leaving our feels aside. In this day and age, we seem to care most about what people think about us. Being liked, loved, admired, respected is our top priority, above caring about how something makes us feel.

This causes us to go out of our way to give & give so much, bend backward to appease to, and help others before ourselves leaving our basic human needs on the back burner. As a result, we burn out, breakdown, gain weight, shelf how we feel, attract sickness & disease, become anxious, depressed… You name it. Worrying about money can also be something that makes us neglect how we feel, and keep charging forward regardless. More on that in a moment.

Taking care of yourself first should BE at the top of your list…

Something easier said than done with the pressures of life. You’ve got bills to pay, and shit to get done like the rest of us. Battling money & time. I hear ya… Brian + I have felt the same. I have avoided dental checkups, and eye exams because I knew they were going to cost me more than I could afford at the time. Guess what… Things get worse, and they tend to snowball if we don’t take care of ourselves when our intuition gives us those first subtle hints that it’s time to deal with that thing you’ve been avoiding.

Another thing so many of us battle with and has always been a big one for me is fitness. It’s easy to let your fitness slide when we allow other things to become more important. For us, building our business became our top priority. It’s our lifeline, and the thing that allows us to travel full-time. Without it, I’d still be hanging out in my loft up in Toronto busting my ass doing hair, and Brian would likely still be living in Austin working as a firefighter.

At times we have skipped our meditations, and workouts all together because our biz has taken priority. Doing that too many days, or weeks in a row can lead to weight gain, low energy, or feeling uninspired. For me that means feeling pretty miserable to get in front of the camera… Which I do several times a week, since we come out with videos every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday over on YouTube (go ahead and subscribe if you haven’t).

Nothing is more important than how you feel…

Check-in with yourself, and if you haven’t… Take time to get to know what makes you feel good each day. While you may think you don’t have time for a daily fitness or a meditation ritual… You don’t have time in your life not to care about it. I’m saying this from a place of love & experience. Too many times have I let obligations, relationships, and other life stuff get in the way of the things that make me feel good.

Luckily, Brian + I both like to have an open line of communication about what each of us needs as individuals. We seem to both need a lot of the same things. Daily movement, quiet time/meditation, a lot of water, healthy food, and downtime away from our biz.

Without those things… We can get cranky, frustrated, and feel really unmotivated as creators. How you feel is important, and communicating that to the people in your life is even more important. You see, we teach people how to treat us. If you let people dump their problems on your every time you see them they will think that’s ok. If you always say yes to staying late after work, your boss will always expect you to stay past close. If you don’t tell your spouse how you feel, they will likely think you are ok. We have to remember people can’t read our minds. Sometimes you just gotta say no to them, and YES to you!

Taking space to be good to yourself daily, and plan for your future…

Exercise: Make 3 sections in your journal, and write at least 5 things that make you feel good, or get you super excited in each section.

Section 1: Daily Things That Make Me Feel Good
Section 2: Fun Things I Like To Do Often
Section 3: Big Adventures, or Trips I Want To Go On

This is now your master list that you can refer to when you feel like you need more energy, inspiration, or even motivation. For instance, if meditation is something that makes you feel good daily, and you are feeling down then take 15 minutes for yourself to meditate. If you are feeling tired, or cranky, why not move your body for a few minutes. You could bust out some push-ups, have a little dance party, do some jumping jacks, or even some yoga poses. Knowing what makes you feel good will help you move negative energy out, and allow new positive energy in. The idea is to add in a few things here & there, not change your entire life in a moment, but finding time for yourself is so grounding. It helps you be happier, and more present in everything you do because you are showing yourself you are worthy of love.

So often we find ourselves slugging it out, going against how we feel to make others happy or to reach a result. Here’s the thing… If you aren’t feeling your best, your effort & results will lackluster.

Keeping your master list close will remind you to keep yourself in mind when you are making decisions for your future. If you’re invited to a party on the weekend, and you would rather stay home to recharge your batteries with a healthy meal & some yoga… Do it! You gotta make choices that make you feel good.

Taking care of yourself first helps you attract the life you want, PLUS lift up others…

If you can allow space to BE good to yourself daily, and build rituals into your day that give you energy… You will see big changes in your daily experience. You will get more done, be more focused, and reach your goals faster. You will feel better emotionally, spiritually, and physically. Plus you will notice beautiful synchronicities happen, and things start falling into place. Opportunities will pop up, you will have more brilliant ideas flow to you, and feel way more creative. Sounds pretty good huh? Think you could take more time for yourself?

If you need help reaching your goals, grab our FREE Goal Setting Guide. Not in a relationship… All good, the Goal Setting Guide will still help you set awesome goals for yourself, your future relationship, and business goals too. (Even if you are just getting started in your business online.)

What are you going to do to take care of yourself better? Let us know below, we would love to hear from you.

Until Next Time!
Adventure On… Adventure On!

 – Erin Nicole Bick

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Brian Garcia + Erin Nicole Bick are full-time location independent, online business owners. Brian’s background is in firefighting, digital + photographic imaging, and web development. Erin’s background is in professional hairstyling, social intuition, personal development, creative writing, and brand identity development. Together, they create eCourses, high-end online business development coaching, and social media marketing strategies. They go by… BE Adventure Partners!

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