If you want to learn how to create vibrant love from a distance… Or even local… We have a few things to share with you!

Brian and I have yet to live in the same space… Let alone the same country. He lives in Austin, Texas, and I live in Toronto, Ontario. Which makes us 1555 miles apart. We like to say it in miles because km’s sound sooo much further.

Since the moment we met, we promised to build our friendship with open honest communication. If we were going to be friends from a distance we may as well keep it real, and speak what is on our minds.

Through Our Story, I want to show you the importance of personal development, strong communication, trust, and adventure!

I am not going to get into the dirty details about how we met and all the shit we went through prior to falling deeply in love with each other because frankly I am sick of going there. SO if you want the backstory read Our Story!

Any who… Brian and I had both been through some ROUGH stuff! SO we ended up spending a whole lot of time cheering one another up through the day, sending silly pics, goofy vids, fun songs, you name it. We made an oath that we would be open and honest about our feelings, and the things we had been through because what we both needed most, was to learn how to trust.

I have always had a hard time trusting in relationships thus why I have dug so deeply into Personal Development so that I could learn what was going on with me at a core level. Learn my triggers, and understand my behaviors.

One of my fave things about our relationship is that Brian and I already started to establish our dreams and goals alone. When we started really masterminding with each other about the things we wanted in life, we were in total awe! We are both extremely adventurous, and travel is at the forefront of our minds! Meeting people around the globe, interacting, and being of service to people, was all we wanted! Still is!

After I moved out on my own, things started to get really flirty between us! We started realizing how much we were in alignment! We noticed that we couldn’t get enough of each other. We were talking on the phone throughout the day, doing video chats at night, sending messages, and pics non stop. This open communication and playfulness really allowed us to create a vibrant love from a distance! Which I believe has lead us to be able to build confidence and trust in our relationship that neither of us have experienced before.

Our relationship was evolving so beautifully that when it came to meeting for the first time. We went all out, and met up in the UK for a 15 day first date!

We have both dealt with some deep-seeded stuff! Got into unhealthy lifestyle habits, behaviours and mindsets that have left some deep scars. I have found it SO nice to talk to Brian when I have felt as though I am tempted by old behaviors. Especially the social substances… Like booze & pot. I am over the hard shit, but occasionally I do think about having a drink, or just hanging out and smoking some pot with friends. I know this stuff doesn’t serve my purpose anymore, and I love that I can be open with him about this, because once we talk it out we always get to the root. In most cases the need/want comes from a lack that I am not fulfilling in myself. 

I notice I take things less personally with him, because I realize when his tone in his voice changes that he is just hungry… Not annoyed with me.

Knowing yourself allows you to step outside of situations, and see them for what they are. This way we can take ownership for how we contribute in absolutely any situation.

For instance if I start to get short with Brian, or a bit snarky he will troubleshoot by asking me if I have eaten recently. Have I given myself time to meditate, or do some sort of fitness? We are always spot on when it comes to knowing the other’s needs because from a distance we have learned one another’s behaviors so well. We simply understand each other.

Things we do regularly is complement one another genuinely, sending flirty messages, love letters, or homemade gifts. (Brian sent me a home made birdhouse for my housewarming present! What a guy!) Letting someone know how much you care about them NEVER gets old! Promise!

Communication in any relationship no matter the distance is essential to create vibrant love from a distance. Even in a relationship where you are local. If you want to thrive the key is really getting to know the depths of one another, and yourself for that matter so you can communicate what you want as well. Explore each others minds, bodies, and this amazing planet!

Being on the same page sexually is also very important. Being able to talk about what you want is really one of the most fun subjects! You can be silly, passionate, sensual… Talk about all the things you like, and you want to try. Use your imagination! Inviting a playfulness into sexuality is certainly something to explore. If you allow yourself to be a bit silly, you are more likely to feel comfortable, and try new things. That my friends is the spice of life. Since we live so far apart, talking about this stuff has made us SO comfortable when we are together in the physical. The openness allows us to communicate during love making, so that we can take our time, and really attend to each others desires. There is NEVER a need to rush, or race to the finish, if you know what I am saying! Be present, and enjoy the moment!

You deserve to create vibrant love in your life! You deserve to be understood! AND by all means you deserve enjoyment, passion, and pleasure! Bring excitement, and play into every aspect of your life! Even daily chores! Get out there and explore the world together! Because mixing things up keeps a relationship interesting! A life lived from the couch… Living through others peoples lives… Really is a waste of a beautiful life! Wouldn’t you agree? Let us know what you think in the comments.

Until Next Time!
Adventure On… Adventure On!

 – Erin Nicole Bick

Hey, we're Brian + Erin. Currently, we're workin' on our bug out bus. Lucky the proverbial $hit hadn't hit the fan yet when we picked up this 40-foot beauty in Phoenix AZ and drove it up to Canada to convert it. Hopefully, we all still have time...

Honestly, this bus conversion has been the only sane thing in this insane world lately. We can't tell you how good it feels to BE working on something that lights our souls up and has such potential for a life that is entwined with nature, love, and happiness.

Our main goal is to inspire people to get off-grid and become self-reliant. We are well on our way and are super excited to talk about solutions with others who are shooting for a similar way of living.

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